Don’t Fear Rejection. Embrace It.

Do you ever feel like you aren’t good enough? Perhaps you’ve been rejected in life by a friend, partner, a college letter, or a potential employer. If you feel like you’re the only one getting rejected, don’t worry because it happens to the best of us. And you know what? –It’s okay! Being rejected is oftentimes viewed as a negative in life, but it doesn’t have to be. The word itself — “rejection”– has a funny stigma attached to it and people tend to give it a bad reputation. When you hear the word, ‘rejection’ what comes to your mind? Don’t fear rejection, embrace it.

Did you know that Stephen King’s book, Carrie, was rejected 30 times before it was accepted?! He almost gave up on the novel. If you quit after every rejection, then you may never reach the result that’s possible. Or worse, you miss out on that better opportunity awaiting you just around the corner! 

So, Why Do We Fear Being Rejected?

We naturally steer away from rejection to seek acceptance; this is deeply rooted within our biology, much like the fight or flight response. We want to feel loved and a part of the tribe, because that will keep us safe from being eaten by lions or starving to death. The Association For Psychological Science shares, “belonging to a group was helpful to our ancestors for survival instincts.” So, recognizing the instinct to avoid rejection doesn’t stop our biology — but it can help us work through the fear and find success!

Rejection helps us define our “why” and how bad we really wish to have it. Giving up after being rejected might mean that it’s not what you really want. Or, it might just be the fear that’s engrained in each of us. 

Tips To Face the Fear of Rejection 

There are many ways to overcome the fear of rejection, but the root of it starts with you and your mindset. Change your belief that rejection is bad or something to be ashamed of. A better alternative is to adopt the belief that rejection means “try again” or it is time for “redirection.” Keep the following tips in mind. 

#1 Try Again And Change Your Approach

To “try again” means you are re-adjusting and giving it another go. Getting rejected helps reveal where we went wrong, and also leaves wiggle room for us to grow. Take rejection as a form of constructive criticism and discover how you can improve your approach. Review, prepare, and try again to conquer your quest!

#2 Time For Redirection

If the first tip continues to bring in the same, unsuccessful outcome, then rejection might mean it’s time for a direction change. Redirection can be a beautiful road to a new door of opportunity! Although it can be difficult to change paths, allowing yourself to take a left-hand turn can blossom into a direction you never thought possible. Einstein said that the definition of insanity is, “to do the same thing over and over again expecting a different result.” Don’t let rejection hold you back, let it help you cultivate change!

Overcome The Doubt And Fear

Whether it is your first rejection or 99th rejection, all it means is that you are one step closer to your goals. Take these tips when rejection brings up the feelings of overwhelming doubt and fear. Rejection can be used to your advantage, so don’t fear it – embrace it! If you are looking for a career change but fear rejection, let’s talk about overcoming those fears and productive steps to getting the job you always wanted!  

Just remember: Rejection is merely a chance to course correct & achieve your destiny.